Tuesday, March 31, 2009

You should read it: Alix & Valerie by Ingrid Diaz


Alix & Valerie (2008) is the debut novel by writer Ingrid Diaz. Diaz was born in Puerto Rico, but currently resides in Lyon, France, where most of the time she can be found behind her computer.

When she is not busy writing fiction or recaps for eurOut, Diaz spends her time blogging about Grey's anatomy and gaming for b5media, and being a smart ass on Twitter (@dreams_).

The novel tells the story of Alix Morris, a 20-year-old theatre and film student with an obsession for Aerosmith, black clothing, and her straight best friend. For the last seven years, Alix has been in love with her best friend, who is about to get married. Needless to say, this hasn’t been easy and Alix is not at all happy about the upcoming wedding.

Then she meets Valerie Skye, an outgoing, intriguing, and wisecracking girl, who turns her world upside down. The crush Alix has nurtured for her straight friend for all those years, doesn’t compare to the feelings that Valerie bring out in her.

Little does Alix know, that Valerie has a secret past and is not quite who she seems. Will Alix and Valerie be able to make their relationship work, or is there too much baggage in their way?

I love this book, so much so that I want to marry it and have its babies. I don’t even want to have kids, but for this book, I’d make an exception. I was a bit worried beforehand that I wouldn’t like the novel. Not that I’d expected it to be bad, but because I thought it would suck having to write a negative review about a book of someone you know.

I needn’t have worried, as Diaz had me at the first sentence. I am not kidding. Ok, the first three sentences of the novel to be exact, in which Alix begs her straight best friend not to make her wear a pink bridesmaid dress.

I thought it was both hilarious and very recognizable. After the first chapter, I was hooked. Why? Two reasons: the style in which this novel is written and the likeability of the main character.

It’s hard to explain a writing style, at least it is for me, but what I like in particular is that it is fast paced and funny. Yes, I know, that isn’t very helpful, you are just going to have read the book yourself to find out what I mean. Let me just say that I enjoyed the writing style almost as much as the actual content, maybe even more.

That is really saying something, because the content was great. This novel tells such a wonderful love story, with enough drama, intrigue and complications to keep it interesting.

I found parts of the story so recognisable, it was like falling in love for the first time all over again. My story wasn’t like Alix’s story, but the description of Alix’s feelings, and the dumb things she says, thinks and does, were so familiar.

I had forgotten what it felt like to be in love with your best friend, or to be so into someone you are too scared and nervous to do or say anything about it. This novel brought back all those feelings.

The whole time I was rooting for Alix, identifying with her so much, even though we are really not that much alike. Well, apart from the fact that we are both smart asses. And big dorks.

Was there anything I didn’t like about this novel? Sure there was, but those were rather minor things. For example, the novel is divided into three sections; Alix’s perspective, Valerie’s perspective and in the final part the perspective keeps changing from Alix to Valerie.

I found the latter kind of confusing, it made me feel a little schizophrenic to keep switching perspectives. Also, I would have preferred a different ending, but that’s just my weird taste.

To sum up, Alix & Valerie is a wonderful novel about falling in love that should be in every queer girl’s bookcase. Maybe even in everyone’s bookcase. Buy your copy today from Amazon or at your local bookstore. I promise you won’t regret it.

Monday, March 30, 2009

Because you’re hot: Padma Laksmi

I have to say that I never quite understood what all the fuss was about when it came to Top Chef presenter Padma Laksmi. That is until I saw her incredibly hot Hardy’s commercial.

Damn.

There really is no need for words. So here for your viewing pleasure, are some more pics Padma enjoying a burger – although the correct term is probably more like devowers, or even seduces.


It’s not the first time Padma made food porn. Here you can see her enjoy meat some more:



Or chocolate.


Happy Monday!

P.S. I "stole" most of the pictures from Dorothy Snarker. Read all her about her love for Padma here and here.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Don’t see it: The Vanishing

When I was visiting my mother, we decided to watch some television and settled on our best choice for the evening, the movie the Vanishing. During the first half of the movie, I couldn’t decide whether it was a good bad movie or just a bad bad movie.

After about an hour (including commercials) I found out it was just really an awful movie. Still, we watched it to the end, and my mother and I were sort of amused. So maybe that does make it a good bad movie? I’ll tell you a little bit what this movie is about, so you can make up your own mind about whether or not it is awful and if you should watch it.

The Vanishing is the 1993 movie about a guy whose girlfriend one day disappears at a gas station and he cannot let go. In fact, he becomes obsessed with wanting to know what happened to her. Years after the event, he is still doing nothing but following leads about her disappearance.

He does find a new girlfriend, but he only pretends that he’s over the dead girlfriend. He goes so far as to make up he’s joined the resistance army, just so he can sneak of to his cabin where he has a serial killer type wall full with clues.
Meanwhile, we, the audience, already know which creepy guy made her disappear. We see him all the time, following the boyfriend’s obsession from a distance. When the boyfriend stops obsessing, creepy guy makes contact and proposes to him he will show him what happened to his girlfriend.

The only way for the boyfriend to find out, is to experience exactly what the girlfriend experienced. Stupid obsessed boyfriend agrees to this. This means he is willingly drinking coffee spiced with a sedative.

Next thing he knows he wakes up in a coffin. The creepy guy has buried him alive. So now he knows what happened to his girlfriend, and he will die a horrible death himself. Or not? Strangely enough this movie actually has a happy ending.

Vanished is full of bad early nineties hair and clothes. The obsessed boyfriend is played by Kiefer Sutherland, and the girlfriend is played by Sandra Bullock. Why oh why did they agree to take part in this movie? It is sooooooo bad. I guess they did not realize, or seeing how long ago it was, they didn’t have much of a choice yet.

I know I started my post saying you should make up your own mind about seeing this. I’ve changed my mind, and just want to give you a stern warning: Don’t see it!

Friday, March 27, 2009

You should read it: Schijn, hoop en liefde (Pretense, hope and love) by Rianne Witte


Schijn, hoop en liefde (Pretence, hope and love) is the debut novel of Dutch author Rianne Witte, about a closeted lesbian living in Holland’s Bible belt. Yes, there really is such a place. It’s a fun and intriguing novel about coming out, religion, but especially about learning to stand up for yourself and living the life you want to.

The novel tells the story of Linda Schuiteman, a naive and insecure twenty-year-old girl who still lives with her parents, in a little village in the Veluwe (heart of the Dutch Bible belt). All her life she has been a “good girl”, and has done exactly what her parents told her to do, and what she thought they expected of her.

She always wanted to play soccer, but because her dad told her girls can’t play a boys game like that, she now plays handball. Worse even, she has a job at her uncle’s butcher shop, even though she is a vegetarian.

All her life Linda has known that she is into girls, but this is something she has always tried to suppress. She feels that her religion tells her it is wrong, and that her parents and the people from the village would never accept it if they knew.

Being accepted and fitting in are things that are very important to her. That is why she has made trying to be insignificant and compliant into an art form.

As many of you probably know, you can only deny your true feelings and who you really are for so long. When her friend Kayleigh encourages Linda to respond to a personal ad, little does she know that this one date is going to change her life forever.

No longer being able to hide who she is, Linda is going to have to find a way to stand up for herself and start living her own life the way she wants to.

I read this book in one go when I travelled across the Netherlands by train a while back. Once I started reading, I could not put it down. I was totally intrigued by Linda and the world that she was living in. Intrigued, because her world is so different to anything I have ever known.

I guess I have been lucky to have grown up in an environment, with very few rules and restrictions, that let me be myself.

Schijn, hoop en liefde paints a perfect picture of what life is like for a little lesbian growing up in a small religious community. As much as the story intrigued me, I also found myself getting really annoyed with Linda.


She is so unbelievably compliant and scared of the world, God and her father (not necessarily in that order), not to mention so very naive. I can’t believe anyone can be like that.

For example, at the beginning of the novel, she seems to have completely made peace with the fact that this is her crappy life, and it is always going to be like that. When her father tells her she cannot do something, she just accepts this and obeys him.

In addition, she truly beliefs that when she does certain “bad things”, God will hate her and punish her for it. It just made me shake my head a lot.

Luckily, as the story goes on, Linda changes a little and learns there is so much more to life than her little scary village. She finally realizes that if she wants to be happy, she is going to have to stop being so passive and make it happen.

I am so used to reading older lesbian novels, that all the current references in this book were kind of weird to read about, and it also made me feel old. Linda’s younger sister, for example, is really into the boy that plays in High school musical – who I have honestly never heard of.

Her friend Kayleigh also uses many English expressions in her conversation, which I found kind of annoying, and made me wonder if anyone really talks like that.

Besides these little things, I thought Schijn, hoop en liefde told a wonderful story, and overall was a great read. This is one of the better lesbian novels of the last few years, and I definitely recommend it to everyone.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

TV Shows I’m watching right now

These days I hardly watch any TV on my actual television, even though I only recently bought a new digital receiver. Things is, I am so used to watching TV series either on DVD or by downloading them, that the “normal” way is kind of a drag.

Instead of being able to watch an entire episode at once, you get all the annoying commercial breaks. Then when you are finally done with one episode, you have to wait another week for the next one.

More importantly, most shows on television are months (if not seasons) behind on the episodes that are airing in the United States, so I much rather just download them. I even watch whole episodes on You Tube.

So what am I watching?

I’m watching Skins and Los hombres de Paco, mainly because I am recapping them for eurOut. Even though I have to admit, I’ve started to quite enjoy these shows, especially Skins.
For a teen show, Skins is actually pretty good and the storyline between Emily and Naomi has been done very well. It is a pleasure to watch these two teenage girls explore their feelings for one another.

Los hombres de Paco, on the other hand, is more a weird dramary that is a fun watch, but also kind of complicated. I’m not sure if that’s because my Spanish sucks or because it’s just really vague and weird. Probably both.

Dollhouse – I’m loving it. Well, I’m a little behind, but yeah, I like it. It is like Alias only with memory loss and a hotter chick (i.e., Eliza). I’m curious to see where they are going to go with the story. I guess all that memory erasing is going to go wrong or something.

Rachel Maddow – I don’t really care much for American politics, but Rachel Maddow makes it almost interesting. Yes, I am one of those many suckers who has joined the mass Rachel Maddow obsession.

Six Feet Under – This has always been one of my favourite shows, and since I own all seasons on DVD, I decided it was about time I rewatch it. I’m almost at the end of the second season. So three more seasons to go.

CSI/NCIS/Bones/Numbers/Coldcase - Whenever I do watch regular television, it is usually crime shows that I watch. I like almost all of them, and I don’t really care for the order I watch them in or even watch season.

Because let’s be honest, you can watch any of the many CSI shows and every single episode could’ve taken place on any of these shows, in any of the seasons. Ok maybe that’s just how I see it. It’s fun easy entertainment, and after 45 minutes the crime is solved.
Shows I should be watching, but aren’t: Battlestar Galactica (I’m waiting for Season 4 to come out on DVD and then I’m going to marathon it), Grey’s Anatomy (I used to be a big fan, until everything went down hill in Season 4, followed by the whole Callica fiasco) and Fringe (I started, then forgot to keep watching for some unknown reason).

Watch are you watching? Anything I am missing out on?

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Attention to details

When I was vacuuming my hallway, I noticed some splashes of paint on the radiator. They have been there since I painted my hallway before I moved in four months ago, yet this was the first time I noticed the splashes.

I would like to say this is an exception, but the truth is, I have a really bad eye for details. In fact, I usually do not notice half of the stuff that is going on around me. Paint splashes, crumbs on the floor, I just don’t see them.

It helps that my apartment isn’t very cluttered and I don’t have much stuff standing around. This enables me to at least notice the most important stuff. When I was staying with a friend of mine whose house was totally full of crap, I mean decorations, I did not see half of it.

With that I mean, that whenever she made small changes I never noticed and I discovered new stuff in her house after months, even though the things had always been there.

It’s not only with details around the house, I have the same problem with people too. I generally do not notice if someone has had a haircut or is wearing a new shirt. In fact, I usually do not even notice what people are wearing at all.

This can be problematic sometimes, especially when it comes to girlfriends or even just female friends. Some of them do expect you to pay attention and compliment them whenever they have something new.

I think it is probably a good thing I usually do not notice, as I am also very bad at lying. Oh you know what I mean. They never care about what I really think of their outfit, they just want you to say they look great.

I better stop now, before I make myself really sound bad. The details thing is kinda weird though, but I really can’t help it. Unless someone points something out to me, of course, then I do see it. But I can also easily forget about it again.

Sometimes that’s very helpful, like with the splashes of paints. Because I really do not feel like spending an hour trying to remove them from the radiator. So I will just forget, until 4 months from now I will notice them again by accident.

Monday, March 23, 2009

Skins recap Episode 3.09: “Katie and Emily”

Previously on Skins: Last week not much happened on the Naomily front. All the kids went camping in the woods, and Naomi, Emily and JJ shared a tent together. Luckily, this wasn’t as bad as it sounds. What was pretty bad, was Effy bashing Katie’s skull in with a rock, when she was high on mushrooms.

The episode starts with Katie all dressed up in high heels and an animal print outfit, strutting her stuff down the school halls. She is sporting a nice shiner from when she was attacked by Effy last episode.

It is time for the kids to take a history exam. JJ takes one look at Katie’s cleavage, and hands her a note that reads, “You’re Emily!” Smart boy. Turns out Emily is pretending to be Katie to take the exam for her, while the real Katie is at home, sitting in her room all depressed and miserable.
Of course, JJ is not the only one bright enough to notice Katie is really Emily. Naomi and Emily joke about how well Emily is pulling off pretending to be Katie. Naomi says she wishes she had a twin to do the exams for her.
Naomi tells Emily she should dress like that more often, because she looks really nice “from the head down.” She says it all flirty, and then does a 180 by mentioning she is going away for the summer. Apparently, Naomi wants to go somewhere alone, like Cyprus, to be alone and to think about stuff. What’s there to think about?

Emily must have read my mind, because she asks Naomi, “About what?” Naomi responds by saying that they should just be friends, and she tells Emily to have a good summer. Ouch.

As Naomi walks away, Emily tells her, “I’ll miss you,” which makes Naomi stop in her tracks. She lets out a deep sigh, turns around, and walks back to Emily. Naomi pushes Emily against the lockers and starts kissing her. It’s pretty hot.


The sound of a group of teenage boys approaching makes them stop kissing, way too soon for my liking. They decide to get out of there, presumably to make out some more somewhere a little more private.

Katie is in her room, ripping up a photograph of her and Freddie, worrying about her bruised face. She decides to make herself feel better, by snooping around in Emily’s stuff. She finds a locked box that she is about to open, when her little brother James walks in. She tortures him until he tells her what is in the box. According to James, it is full of fannies. I hope he means pictures and not real life ones, because that would be kind of gross, not to mention disturbing.

Naomi and Emily are in bed together, naked. It looks like they just had some sex we did not get to see, and now they are engaged in some cute pillow talk. Emily talks about her and Katie always doing everything together and not having any secrets from each other. “What about this one?” Naomi asks. Emily responds by saying she wants to tell people about them. She might have said more, but I was a little too distracted by her wandering hands – even though I watched the scene twice.

Emily asks Naomi to go to the college ball with her, but Naomi just sighs and says she does not want to do that. She feels like the fact that they are together is nobody’s business. Ah the joys of dating a closeted chick. Who hasn’t been there?

Emily: Why not?
Naomi: Em, it is nobody’s business.
Emily: Why? Who cares what other people…
Naomi: Emily! I’m not like you…I’m not sure like you are.
Emily: What aren’t you sure of?
Naomi: Can’t things ever be complicated?
Emily: Fine, you like boys too.
Naomi: Maybe. Maybe I only like boys, apart from you.
Emily: Well that’s f_ _ _ ing great! You are so in touch with yourself, aren’t you?

Emily let’s out a deep sigh and asks Naomi once more to come to the ball with her. Naomi doesn’t respond, so Emily gets out of bed. “Don’t do that,” Naomi says. Emily responds by telling Naomi she shouldn’t be doing that, because Emily is not her f_ _ _ing experiment.

Emily proceeds to get dressed, and is cursing because she cannot find her shoes. She tells Naomi she can keep her f_ _ _ ing shoes. Naomi just lies there, not saying a word, but her face says it all. That is the face of a girl whose heart is breaking for the very first time.

Emily: I’m tired. So sick and tired of it…Still holding hands through the cat flap, aren’t we? Have fun in Cyprus!

And with that, Emily walks out of Naomi’s bedroom. Now both girls are crying, and I almost feel like joining in. Almost. Break ups suck.

While Emily is crying at the bus stop, she runs into Thomas. He asks her why she is not wearing any shoes, and she tells him she couldn’t find them, like that answer makes perfect sense. Thomas lends Emily his shoes to wear, as well as his jacket. Emily asks Thomas what you should do when someone you love lets you down. He tells her you must try to stop loving them. “Is that even possible?” she asks, and Thomas responds that he doesn’t think so. Now and then these teenagers on Skins are pretty wise.

Emily comes out to Thomas, and he casually says it’s fine and that they should take a cap, because it looks like the bus isn’t coming, and his feet are getting cold.

Dinner at Katie and Emily’s house, and dad is being a total ass, talking about the importance of working out. When James swears he is punished by having to do some pull ups. Emily comes home in the middle of it. She sits down at the dinner table and looks a complete mess.

Her mother wants to know what she has been up to, and Emily decides to come out to her family, telling them she’s been making love to a girl. They are rather shocked, and while Katie attempts to make it sound like Emily is making it up, Emily continues, saying, “Her name is Naomi. She is rather beautiful. So I was nailing her. ”

Her dad reacts like it is the best joke he has ever heard. He walks off laughing, and Emily storms off to her bedroom. That’s when James tells the best line of the episode: “Gordon McPherson says you call them dykes, because you have to stick your finger in them.” What? Was I the only one who thought that was funny?

Katie and Emily argue in their bedroom about Emily’s coming out. Effy must have hit Katie pretty hard with that rock, because Katie seems convinced that Emily is making everything up. Katie says to Emily that Emily is just pretending to be gay, because she is jealous of Katie. Yes, that makes perfect sense. Katie tells Emily, “You’re not gay, you’re just stupid.” Don’t you wish you had a nice twin sister like that too?

The next morning Naomi shows up at Emily’s front door, not realising Emily came out to the family the night before. Emily’s mother invites her in, and it is not awkward at all. She tells Naomi to stop putting ideas into Emily’s head about beings into girls, and that she should leave Emily alone.

The twins wake up and apologise to each other in Twin speak, which is very cute and adorable. Katie tells Emily they are going shopping for ball dresses, even though neither of them has a date for the ball.

At the dress shop they bump into Panda, who doesn’t have a date either. They decide these should all go dateless together. Panda declares, “I am never doing surf and turf with boys ever again. It just f_ _ _s everything up, don’t it?

What follows is a shopping-for-ball-dresses montage that is luckily cut short by Freddie and JJ walking into the shop. Katie confronts Freddie about being a jerk, then walks off and Freddie follows her to apologise.

Emily is asking JJ if he has told anyone about them sleeping together, because it is supposed to be a secret. JJ admits he has told Freddie, but that it is cool, because Freddie didn’t care. We all know that it’s only a matter of time before Naomi finds out as well. I bet she won’t think it’s cool.
Katie tells Freddie he owes her, and should therefore take her to the ball and pretend to like it. She suggests JJ can take Emily, and Freddie says JJ will probably like that idea because of their fling together. Oops.

Katie is upset with Emily for sleeping with JJ, because he is a moron and because Emily should have asked her before she slept with him. Seriously?

Naomi can’t take the way things are between her and Emily, and walks out of class to give her a call. They decide to meet for coffee. At least, that’s what Naomi thinks, because when she arrives there it is Katie who is sitting there waiting for her. Katie tells Naomi to leave Emily alone, because Emily is hers.

As if that wasn’t bad enough, Katie also tells Naomi that Emily slept with JJ. In fact, she says a bunch of nasty things to Naomi, who responds by asking Katie why she is so horrible. Katie’s answer is that she loves Emily more than Naomi ever can. She also tells Naomi not to dare show up at the ball.

JJ and Freddie arrive to pick Katie and Emily up for the ball, but they can’t leave before they are grilled by Katie and Emily’s parents. It’s awkward and kind of funny. Katie and Emily show up in matching dresses, which isn’t weird and creepy at all.

While everyone is at the ball, Emily is lying on her bed feeling miserable. Katie, Emily, JJ and Freddie are all standing around in front of the school, talking in groups of two about how weird this double date thing is. Just as they are about to go in, Emily shows up.

She tells JJ, “Ah, how sweet. Look at you JJ, suave. Well, it should be fun. Emily is great in the sack, isn’t she JJ?” JJ being JJ, he can’t help but admit that he did, in fact, sleep with Emily. Emily tells Naomi that she meant to tell her, but Naomi just ignores her and walks inside. This makes Emily run off in the opposite direction.

Katie and Naomi are fighting in the bathroom. Just as Katie admits that she was a bitch, because Emily deserved it, Emily comes out of one of the bathroom stalls. Now Katie and Emily are fighting. All their slapping and hair pulling is disrupting the ball.

Emily realizes that beating the crap out of Katie isn’t the answer. Instead she tells Katie it is time she saw that Emily is her own person, different from Katie. She tells Katie in front of the whole school that she is into girls, a girl. Emily says, “I love her, ok. I love…her,” while she points at Naomi.

Naomi holds out her hand and the two of them walk off together. Awww.

As they are walking down the steps of the school, hand in hand, Naomi casually tells Emily she loves her too. Emily responds in a similar fashion, with a simple, “I know.” Talk about a happy end.

Next time on Skins: On the final episode of the season, lots of stuff happens to characters that are not Naomi or Emily. Let’s pretend this was the final instead.

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Music Memory Moment: No More Games by New Kids on the Block

Probably one of the worst songs ever recorded in the history of ever is No More Games by everyone’s favourite boy band New Kids on the Block. As I have shamefully admitted on previous occasions, I went through a bit of a boy band phase when I was little.

OK, so those of you who know how old I am know that I wasn’t that little when this song came out, but I was still a young and innocent teenager. Fourteen to be exact, but I could be off by a year.

Anyways, I loved this crappy song and I honestly thought it was awesome, especially the rap at the end. I was totally clueless about the fact that Donnie Wahlberg couldn’t rap for shit and that the lyrics were the most retarded ever.

I mean, the song starts with Donnie saying, “No more games is about positivity, and positivity is not about being soft, it’s about being smart. You suckers.” WTF. I was going to say in their defence and mine, that we were young and did not know any better.

At least, I know better now. But those NKOTB boys? Someone should have told them that what is cute when you are in your early twenties looks kind of dumb when you are grown men in your late thirties. Oh well, it’s probably just about money anyway.


I was actually present at this exact concert. No, not embarrassing at all.

Back to the No More Games song. I loved the rap at the end so much, that not only did I learn it by heart, but I also used to rap it myself, every chance I got. I am not joking. I was totally unashamed and unaware that I: 1. Couldn’t rap. 2. Was making an ass of myself, and 3. That apart from fellow NKOTB fans, no one liked or cared for my rap.

I would rap NKOTB songs at school on the playground, in the toilets, in the halls, even in the classrooms sometimes. What the hell was wrong with me?

You know what the worst part is? To this day, I still know the rap by heart. In fact, I know a lot of bad raps by heart. Besides all NKOTB raps, I also remember, for example, all the lyrics to Ice Ice Baby.

Shut up! I am sure you did some pretty embarrassing things as a teenager too.

Ellen singing I kissed a girl with Katy Perry

Just had to share this with you. If Ellen can sing I kissed a girl, and together with Katy Perry even, perhaps it's time we stopped complaining about this song? I, for one, think it's pretty awesome. Not to mention funny.

Friday, March 20, 2009

Pocket watches

I was not sure what I should blog about and so I asked my wonderful Editor in Chief for a topic. I told her it could be anything at all, because I guess I was feeling like a challenge or something.

Guess what she came up with? Pocket watches. Apparently, she loves them. That is all really nice, but I have honestly never in my life given pocket watches any thought at all. While I wrote that sentence down, it made me wonder if that means I am “neutral” about pocket watches.

Am I? When I think of pocket watches, I think of old-fashioned men in old-fashioned movies. You know, the kind of guys that wear stylish three-piece suits, with vests. The kind of men that carry around handkerchiefs, reading glasses, and, well, pocket watches.

When I was younger, I read all of Anne Rice’s novels faithfully. Her books on vampires and witches included these old-fashioned scholars called the Talamasca. I am pretty sure all of those guys carried pocket watches.
Now that I think about it, I am not sure I get what the point of a pocket watch is. I mean, why not just wear a watch on your wrist like everyone else? Or, you know, check the time on your mobile. Or iphone.

I don’t think you even really need any kind of device that tells you the time these days. I mean, you can see what time it is almost everywhere…on computers, wall clocks, etc. I am pretty sure you would be just fine, if you did not carry any device on you with a clock.

Having said that, I can understand if one were to think that pocket watches were charming. After all, I did immediately make the connection between pocket watches and charming old fashioned men.

But what about women? Is a pocket watch a “manly” device or does anyone know of any women who carry around pocket watches? Perhaps you are a woman who owns a pocket watch. Do let me know, I am kind of curious to find out.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

YouTube Thursday: Lesbians

Warning: never type the word lesbian into YouTube. Well, unless you want to extend your porn collection, of course.

I searched through all the porn for you and these are some of the fun vids that I found…

Lesbian couples from TV and film

How many series and movies does you recognize?

Lizzy the Lezzy

My favourite animated lesbian stand up comedian…

All over me

Leisha Hailey is adorable with her pink hair…

Rachel Maddow explaining difference between lesbians and ladies from lesbos

Such a dumb lawsuit, but it’s a fun explanation…

Neve Campbell and Denise Richards make out in Wildthings

Still as hot as it was a decade ago...

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

German artist Hanne Darboven has passed away


Last week Hanne Darboven, one of the most important contemporary German artists, died at age 67.

Darboven went to art school in Hamburg in the sixties, after which she moved to New York where she lived for two years. During that time, she befriended artists from the “Minimal art” movement that inspired her to create her own art projects. These included large scale construction drawings that to the novice eye (read mine) look like large calendars.

Of course, it is a little more sophisticated than that. They are systems with simple number sequences in columns and in boxes that look like arbitrary numbers, but they were actually written according to strict predefined structures with complex variations.

After her first solo exhibition in Germany in the late 1960’s, Darboven moved back to Hamburg where she became intrigued with rewriting poetry according to various complicated indices. This let to more exhibitions of her work in various places.

From the mid ‘70s onwards, Darboven focused on what turned out to be her greatest work, namely the way she saw the passing of time through numeral codes, words, photographs etc. She created a total of 3361 pages of text, calculations and drawings that represent her systematic approach to counting the years 1900 to 1999. In her drawings two kinds of time can be found, the actual time it took to make them and the historical time they represent.

Darboven’s work has been shown in museums all over the world, including New York’s famous Guggenheim museum.

I had not known about Hanna Darboven or her work, until I read about her passing, and saw a picture of her that drew my attention. Who was this androgynous looking lady? I had to find out. This was easier said than done, because even though I found out many things about her wonderful art, hardly anything seems to be known about her personally, let alone her private life.

I am not sure if this means that she was all about her work, as some sources speculate, or that she was just a very private person. All I could find out is that Darboven has always been known for appearing in public with a crew cut and dressed in men’s suits. Well, at least she did for the last few decades.

There was a wonderful photo exhibition a couple of years ago in which photographer Angelika Platen showed pictures she took of Darboven both in 1968 and in 2002. I find it very fascinating to see the 34 years of difference between these photographs.

If you want to find out more about Darhoven you can do so here, or if you want to get a better understanding of the background of her work, click here.

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

New Indigo Girls album: Poseidon and the bitter bug

I have been playing the new Indigo Girls album Poseidon and the bitter bug – which by the way is an awesome album title- non-stop for the last few days.

Even though I generally like Indigo Girls songs, I have never been a huge fan. Like every good lesbian, I can sing along to classic songs like Closer to fine, but I can’t say I have ever owned an entire CD. Now I am starting to think that maybe I was wrong about this.

I am really enjoying Poseidon and the bitter bug, and after quite a number of listens, I have decided on my favourite song. It’s called Second time around, and I especially love the lyrics. Not only do they mention “God fearing lesbians” that I find very amusing for some reason, but it also has this one line that has been stuck in my head for the last day or so:

“Here’s what I found about compromise, don’t do it if it hurts inside. Cause either way you’re screwed.”

Some wise lessons there. Seriously.

The new album will be released March 24 (world wide, I think) and comes in two different versions; a full band and an acoustic version. To be honest, I really did not hear that much of a difference between the two versions.

Obviously, the acoustic CD is acoustic and the full band one is not, but Indigo Girls songs are mainly acoustic guitar driven songs anyways, so it’s not like the difference is huge. Having said that, I do think I like the full band version slightly better.

It’s been three years since their last album. Was it worth the wait? You tell me!

Can’t wait until March 24? Click here and download one track for free.

Monday, March 16, 2009

Streamy awards

Over the last year or so I have become a big fan of watching “television” on my computer. In particular, I have become hooked on the many web series that have appeared almost out of nowhere.

There are so many cool things online these days; it is hard to keep track of them all. I don’t even try, but I am always excited whenever I find a new web series that I like.

Some of the web series that I have really enjoyed this year are Dr Horrible’s sing-along blog, Anyone but me, and Joni and Susanna. I am sure I would also love new series like Gemini Division, but because of all the stupid GEO blocking, I cannot watch them.

Now that web series and other forms of online content have become much more popular, there’s now also an award show involved: the Streamy awards. Nominees include a lot of stuff I have never heard about, but are dying to discover.

Joss Whedon’s Dr Horrible Sing-along blog is nominated in about 10 different categories, including best comedy web series, best directing and best editing.

The Battlestar Galactica webisodes are also up for a few awards. Haven’t watched any of those, because I am so behind on my BSG watching. But I’m sure it’s good.

So what web series are you watching? Let me know as I would love some cool suggestions.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Because you’re hot: Kaki King

I had heard about her music before, but until recently I did not realize just how hot Kaki King is. Don’t know what I am on about? Check out these photos….




Now tell me, is that a hot woman or what?