Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Top hot Butches list: My picks

Last week Sinclair Sexsmith presented the Top Hot Butches list that caused a bit of a steer. The criteria by which women qualified for that list were kind of broad, vague and controversial, but I don’t want to go into that now.

Instead I thought it was a great excuse to post some photos of the women that made the list that I really like – either because of hotness or because they are awesome or, well, mainly because they are hot.

Like I said, I did not look or think if any of these women fit any kind of label...these are just 8 women who were on that list that I think are very attractive...

#1 Rachel Maddow

Because smart and geeky is HOT

#3 Chris Pureka

Love love love her music

#10 Syd Blakovich

Yes, she’s a porn star, but there is just something about this photo

#16 Natasha Kai

One of my favourite hot soccer players. Yes, there’s lot of them

#38 Sarah Bettens

Great singer, great woman, getting hotter every year

#46 Rebecca Drysdale

There’s just something about her

#51 Melissa Ferrick

It’s the look, the attitude, the awesome music

#61 Tracy Chapman

She always makes me smile

Let me know if there’s any women who did not make this list that should have. I am very curious to find out.

Monday, June 29, 2009

TV shows you should own on DVD: Fringe

Fringe is quite possibly one of the best shows I have ever seen. I wouldn’t go as far as to say it is my favourite show, but it comes damn close. I just finished watching the first season and I am kind of sad about it, because now there will be no more Fringe to watch until the second season starts.

For those of you who are not familiar with Fringe (Shame on you!), the best description of the show is probably as a cross between CSI and the X-files. Actually, it is a lot like the X-files, same bizarre stuff happens, only there are no aliens.

Instead of all the aliens and other mysterious paranormal events that took place on the X-files, on Fringe it is all man made. It is scientist who were a little too smart for their own good, who are causing all the crazy happenings.

When I say crazy happenings, I mean stuff like time travel – or more exactly travel between dimensions – being able to hear and share other peoples thoughts, making people do stuff by having contagious emotions, killing people through computer viruses, and the list goes on and on.

All these mysterious happenings accompanied by unusual deaths by itself would already make this a show worth watching. I am a big fan of crime shows and mysterious sci-fi stuff in general. But what makes Fringe so great, is that there is actually a story behind it (unlike crime shows like CSI that just have the murder of the week that they solve in 45 minutes).

It’s utterly fascinating to see the story unfold, of what exactly these scientist are up to or have done and what role our main characters (have)play(ed) in it. That’s another thing I love about this show, all the main characters are so great. Great as in interesting and likeable.

I love agent Olivia (played by the gorgeous Anna Torv) – who I have already talked about at length in a previous post. She is hot and smart and so likeable. It’s one of those incidents where I am not sure whether I want to be her or do her. Probably both.

She has a great chemistry with Pacey (yes, I know that is not his character’s name, but Joshua Jackson will always be Pacey to me. I hearted Pacey. Any other Dawson’s Creek fans out there?). He’s very likeable and interesting. I want them to hook up (I am sure they will at some point, then decide it’s a “mistake”).

And of course the most likable guy of the show is the mad scientist. He must be annoying and tiresome to have as a father, but over the course of the season I have really started to love the guy. He is so brilliant and smart, yet so childlike and well, a little crazy.

I started watching the first few episodes of Fringe just enjoying the show. Then I got really invested in the storylines. Towards the end I was OMGing at my laptop screen, excited and eager to find out more.

I know it hasn’t been released on DVD yet, but when it does, make sure you get your copy of the first season of Fringe. It is so worth your money, trust me.

Now when does the second season start dammit?

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Awesome Buffy versus Edward mash-up

OMG this is the most awesomest thing ever...Buffy rocks. And ehm...I hadn't seen Twilight before, but could that Edward boy be any lamer?

Winner announced for Dutch Femme 2009 award

On Saturday during Roze Zaterdag (Pink Saturday) in Den Haag, the final of the Dutch Femme 2009 award– the search for the Dutch queer role model – took place. The event was organised by Femfusion, the organisation who has also been responsible for other great initiatives like Lesbian Flow that we told you about a few weeks ago.

The idea behind the Femme award it is to pick one woman each year to be the face and spokes person for queer Dutch women, in order to improve lesbian and bisexual visibility and emancipation.

After an initial online selection process by readers of the Femfusion website, followed by a semi final where lesbian and bisexual women had to compete for the title, including performing and giving a speech in front of an actual jury, three finalists were chosen.

For the last few weeks everyone was encouraged to vote for the winner, by sending a text message with the name of their favourite contestant. A little bit like the queer Idols, if you will.

Finalists Femme 2009 award Guillitta, Eline and Saskia

To give more publicity to the event, the three finalists and organisers of the event could also be seen in several television programmes in the last few weeks. This was on top of several known faces being involved in the initiative, including minister Plastkerk who opened the event, author/singer Karin Giphart who was part of the jury and singer Michelle who wrote a song especially for the event, Boobs and Brains.

On Saturday night Karin Giphart announced the winner: 23-year-old Giullitta Anthony. She received the first prize from singer Ellen ten Damme, besides being “our” spokesperson for a year, she also gets to drive around in a Smart Forfem.

You can watch Karin Giphart interview Giullitta about being chosen as Femme 2009 here. For those of you who don’t speak Dutch, she is talking about how she came about taking part in the competition and how visibility of queer women is important. They also talk about the fact that she’s bisexual and how that shouldn’t be an issue, because the main thing is that both lesbians and bisexuals are into women.

Femfusion made a statement that they are really happy with Giullitta as their first spokesperson, saying she owes her victory to her charismatic presentation and her sense of humour.

The latter came through mainly in the semi finals where she performed a sketch entitled Zotte pot (Crazy dyke), about misconceptions of queer women in the media and everyday life. They are convinced she’ll do a great job improving lesbian visibility in the Netherlands.

What do you think of this initiative? Are you sceptical or do you think we should we have awards like this in other countries as well?

This article was first published on eurOut.

Friday, June 26, 2009

Belgian TV presenter and singer Yasmine has passed away

Yesterday it was announced that Belgian TV presenter and singer Yasmine has passed away at age 37. She ended her own life.

Yasmine, who was born as Hilde Rens on 3 March 1972, was a well-known figure in Belgium, having hosted many popular TV programs like De Rode Loper (The red carpet) and Zo is er maar één (There’s no one like it). She also had a very successful music career.

She started her career as a singer in 1991 when she released her debut CD Mooi zo. Some of her hit songs include Vraag me niet waarom (Don’t ask me why) and Porcelein (Porceline). In total she released nine studio albums. More recently she went on a theatre tour through Belgium singing translations of Leonard Cohen songs.

2009 wasn’t a very good year for Yasmine. In April eurOut reported that her marriage with Marianne Dupon had come to an end and they were getting a divorce. They were in a relationship for 8 years and had a daughter together Ella-Louise who was born in 2007. The news of their separation caused quite a steer, because in 2003 they had been the first lesbian celebrity couple to get officially married in Belgium.

This article was first published on eurOut.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

YouTube Thursday: Favourite cover songs: Wouldn't it be good

Wouldn’t it be good by Nik Kershaw is such a cheesy eighties song, but still I like it. Not sure why. I loved it years ago, and I still like it today. Especially the incredibly dated music video.

Nik Kershaw – Wouldn’t it be good

This is another good example of a song that you may not notice how good it is until it gets covered. For example, Belgian band Soulwax did a great cover version of this song.

Soulwax – Wouldn’t it be good
-Sorry, couldn't find a vid for this version-

Another nice cover is by Placebo. I might be a little biased because I really like Placebo, but yes, definitely better than the eighties original.

Placebo – Wouldn’t it be good

Yes, I know, that's a lot of singing by dudes. Luckily, some women have attempted to cover this song. Here's an interesting rendition by Tina Arena.

Tina Arena - Wouldn't it be good

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Thoughts on same sex marriage

When in 2001 the Netherlands was the first country in the world to open up marriage to same sex couples I did not even care...

I did not care because I had no intention of ever getting married and I thought the whole notion of marriage was old fashioned and stupid. Even though I was out at the time, being gay was such a marginal part of my life I never really given it any thought why this SHOULD matter or why this was such a big fucking deal.

We first got civil unions for same sex partners, as well as for straight couples, who have been a big fan of the construct for themselves ever since. The step to granting marriage too wasn’t that big after that, especially because marriage isn’t such a big deal here as it is in some other countries.

I remember some objections, mainly from the religious right (of which we also don’t really have that many either), but apart from that the whole thing seemed to have passed without muss fuss. To be honest, I can’t be completely sure about this as in those days I wasn’t really paying attention to anything dealing with the LGBT community.

Sometimes things take time. When I think about how long my own journey was to accept that I was gay and after that to come out to the world and make my sexual orientation a part of my life, I can only imagine what it is like for people who don’t even know anyone who’s gay and have to get their mind around things like granting marriage to same sex couples.

I am not saying I understand or agree with some countries taking so long to give their same sex couples the same rights as straight couples, after all, I feel that this should be a total non issue, as there’s no reason why anyone should care about whether or not I get to marry my girlfriend.

Still, everything takes time and especially in the United States where in some places they are still very behind on things like acceptance of homosexuality and feel very strongly about marriage, it might take a little more to have everyone be granted the right to marry there.

It does feel like the climate is changing, especially within the LGBT community. The general consensus seems to be that we will no longer just wait to become equal to everyone else, but we want it all and we want it now.

To come back to the point I started this post with....I did not care when my country was the first in the world to grant me the right to marry my girlfriend should I choose to. I did not understand what a big deal this was and how blessed I am to live where I live. And for that I am sorry. Sorry to everyone living in countries who aren’t that lucky. I get it now, how fortunate I am. Now all I need is to find that special woman to marry...

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Upcoming movie: Les mouvements du bassin

What is the one thing you wish for in queer movies or movies with queer characters and can never get enough of? We all know the answer to this one: lesbians who are dying to get pregnant, of course. Well, luckily our wishes will be fulfilled once more with the upcoming French movie Les mouvements du bassin (Pelvis movements) by Hervé-Pierre Gustave.

Les mouvements du basin tells the story of Marion, who is a nurse at a testing centre where her wife Carole also works. They are living a great life and are both very happy, but what is still missing that would make their life complete is a baby. They decide to get pregnant with the help of a friend who’s a doctor who will perform artificial insemination on Marion.

Photo by HPG Production

Meanwhile there’s Thierry, a bit of a loner, who prefers to play combat sports rather than interact with people. He is a watchman at a factory, which is ideal for his preference for solitude. He gets into a relationship with a transvestite, and when one night the condom breaks, he is convinced that he is now HIV positive.

Yes, this part of the plotline had me frown too. He becomes more and more paranoid and angry.

Then at some point Marion and Thierry’s paths cross in a violent and life altering encounter, that makes Marion loser her baby and Thierry rethink his life. When this happens, according to the plot summary, “The norms of society will be disrupted.” I am kind of scared to find out what exactly they mean by this.

I am not yet jumping for joy at the thought of this movie. I mean, it’s always nice to have a queer storyline, but does it always have to be about having babies? Or in this case, losing babies by encounters with weird paranoid angry men?

On the plus side though, the character of Marion will be played by actress and comedian Rachida Brakni, who is very pleasant on the eye. Brakni has starred in several movies before, but none worth mentioning. Well, besides maybe Skate or die just because I love the title. I also found out she is actually married in real life to the actor who plays Thierry (Eric Cantona).

The character of Carole will be played by actress Maria De Medeiros, who you might know for her role as Butch Coolidge (Bruce Willis)’ girlfriend in Pulp Fiction. She also played alongside Isabella Rossellini in the movie The saddest music in the world.

They have only just started shooting the movie and no definite release date has been announced yet, but expect it in theatres across France sometime next year.

This article was first published on eurOut.

Monday, June 22, 2009

People are stupid

Yes, once more we are back to one of my favourite topics, namely the stupidity of people. People are so unbelievably stupid sometimes and this never ceases to amaze or annoy me. It makes me want to punch people in the face, even though I am not a violent person at all.

Sometimes the better option is to not give in to bad impulses, but just laugh at things instead. Here’s an awesome fake newspaper article. Yes, it is a fake, but it could be true, right?

Thanks to @faithfulchosen for posting this on Twitter a while back.

Another one of my favourite images is this one, which combines my dislike for two things – stupidity and group behaviour.

Have a fun Monday!

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Song of the week: Sarah Mclachlan - Stupid

I love Sarah Mclachlan and I love THIS song. Just fastforward through the band introductions...it's so worth it.

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Because you’re hot: Random hotness part 3

I thought it was about time I followed up on my previous Random hotness posts part 1 and part 2. With random hotness I mean just a random selection of pics of women on my laptop that make me happy.

Yes, I said happy. Interpret that any way you like. *g Enjoy!

Friday, June 19, 2009

Fuck you - German version: Radioeins sagt Nein zu Homophobie

Out lesbian Nanna Grundfeltd wins Finnish Top Model reality show

Picture from Nelonen.fi

Queer contestant Nanna Grundfeltd of Finnish reality show Suomen Huippumaili Haussa (Finland’s next top model) was already all kinds of awesome in my eyes for not only being gorgeous, but also for being able to walk over eggs without breaking them, and most of all, for being unashamedly out and proud.

It looks like being yourself pays off sometimes, as the 24-year-old contestant was declared the winner of Top Model during yesterday’s finale epsisode. The prize she received includes, among other things, a cover photo shoot with Cosmopolitan magazine, something involving Max Factor and a casting trip to Milan. As well as the main prize of getting a contract with Paparazzi Model Management.

Don’t shoot me if I got some of these details wrong, as I know very little about all this girly stuff. What I do know is that Nanna is very cute, which is the most important thing, right?

Nanna winning the competition wasn’t really a surprise to most of the Finnish viewers, as still water company BonAqua accidently posted posters – including 35 billboards- congratulating Nanna with her victory one day early by mistake. Oops.

Even though Top Model competitions all over the world have seen many queer contestants before (especially in the United States), this is the first time that an out lesbian has won. Not only did Nanna never hide her sexual orientation, she even expressed herself through it in several photo shoots, including this one in which she looks cute in a hoodie with the word Homo on the front.

Picture from Nelonen.fi

It probably comes as no surprise to many of you when I say that shows like Top Model are not really my kind of thing. I do not even care much for models in general. However, I am very excited about Nanna’s victory, as she seems a lot more likeable and attractive to me than most models do. More importantly, having an out lesbian declared as Finland’s top model is a great day for lesbian visibility.

This article was first published on eurOut.com.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

YouTube Thursday: Favourite cover songs: Wicked game

I never thought much of the original. Wicked game sung by Chris Isaak is quite lame. Not a bad song, just not very exciting.

Chris Isaak – Wicked game

The cover version by Him, however, I do really like. It clearly shows that all this song needed was a few more guitars.

Him – Wicked game

Or perhaps what it really needed was a woman. Women make everything better. Well, often they do. Listen to Heather Nova’s version of the song and make up your own mind.

Heather Nova – Wicked game

Pretty nice, huh?

Wednesday, June 17, 2009


I have always had weight problems or perhaps that’s not really accurate, but I don’t think I have ever been skinny. Well, not until I was about 8 lol. I spent most of my undergrad years drinking, eating crap and getting no exercise.

It did not seem to affect me that much, until I got in my early twenties and all of a sudden everything I consumed seemed to stay on my body. It did not help matters much that as a grad student I started to spend most of my days behind a computer.

Very gradually I started to put on a lot of weight. And to be honest I did not even notice. I mean, I knew I was a little on the heavy side, but I did not realize how bad it had gotten until about 5 years ago I stood on a scale for the first time in years and noticed I weighed 200 pounds.

I was very shocked by this and also very upset. It was quite the confrontation with myself and I decided to change the way I lived my life and try to lose some weight. And I have to say, I was very successful.

I never did get very sportive, but I did totally change my eating habits. I won’t bore you with the details, but I basically started eating less and way more healthy. In 18 months I managed to lose about 50 pounds.

Not only that, but I also was able to keep the weight of for a few years. That was until I quit smoking. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done and I could not abstain from nicotine and not allow myself any nice food or booze either.

It made me put on a lot of weight again. Then moving back to the Netherlands and being unemployed for a while also did not really help matters. Slowly I started gaining back the weight I had lost before.

Luckily I did not let it get out of hand this time. But I had been carrying around the extra weight for a little too long. Simply watching what I was eating wasn’t doing the trick anymore.

So after tons of talking about dieting, five weeks ago my mother and I made de decision to really have a go at it again. Yes, with an official diet with specific meals and ingredients that need weighing etc.

I have been eating nothing but little healthy meals for weeks now and I feel great. Not only that, but it’s also really working and I am starting to lose weight. Despite a few nice long weekends away and still being allowed to drink alcohol (I need some rewarding lol), it’s going very well.

I hope to stick with it for a long time to come. What I am looking forward to most is being able to fit into all my old clothes again, especially all my cool pants that have been waiting for me in my closet for a long time now...

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Pretty picture Tuesday: Barcelona

I just returned from a long weekend in Barcelona. The weather was lovely and so were the women *g. Oh and of course let’s not forget the surroundings. Here’s some pretty pictures to give you an idea...

(Yes, just of the nature not the hot women...I might have enjoyed the view, but I did not take any pictures. Obviously)

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Because you’re hot: Lena Heady

Lena Heady is not only very hot, she’s also a great actress and she seems like a lovely person. No story this time, just a selection of my Lena Heady picture collection....Enjoy!