I had this conversation with one of my straight friends the other day. We were talking about relationships and sex, and she seemed very surprised to find out I was a gold star lesbian.
‘You mean to say, you have never had sex with a man, not even once?’ she asked me, as if it was the weirdest thing she had ever heard. ‘Well,’ I said, ‘you have never had sex with a woman.’ But apparently, that isn’t the same thing.
Is it really not the same thing? I mean, we do tend to find out our orientation a little later than straight people do, so there are probably more lesbians who have slept with men than straight girls who have slept with women (the geek in me would love to see some research data on this).
However, I would think that besides that, it is exactly the same whether you are gay or straight. Besides one important difference. Most straight girls seem very curious about what it is like to have sex with a woman.
I have yet to find a lesbian who thinks the same way about having sex with men.